TW FOR RAPE/RAPE APOLOGY/RAPE CULTURE
This photo was taken the night I was raped.
March 20, 2010.
The boy who has the red ‘X’ over his face was my attacker. The rest are my friends.
The photo was taken at a cast party. He was supposed to have given me a ride home.
I’m finally letting the world know. I’m sure many people at my school already knew because of rumours due to the police officers that hovered around me. But now, over a year later, I’m ready to officially admit it to everyone: I was raped.
I’ve almost posted this many times before, but I lose courage. I’m going to post it this time. I want to spread courage to other people. No matter what the circumstances were, it is in no way your fault. If you were sexually assaulted, you are not in the wrong. If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.
I know how you feel. Dehumanized, degraded, unimportant, ashamed. I WAS ashamed. Because of what he did to me I felt ashamed. Why did it feel so embarrassing? You should not be ashamed. It is an act of violence. Someone attacked you. Fuck them. They should not be allowed to get away with it. He was not allowed to get away with it.
Yes, you will cry. Yes, you will feel awful. And yes, it gets better. Tell someone. A parent, a friend, a teacher, anyone. It helps, I swear on my life it helps.
You’re not alone. You’re never alone. You are important. You are strong.
I’m happy. You deserve to be happy, too.
-Annabella
it’s really sad and all that you got raped, but i’m assuming that you’re the girl whose face isn’t blurred and is hanging all over your presumed attacker, touching his chest, and letting him invade your personal space.
maybe you should also think about the messages that you send instead of blaming it all on the “attacker”.
no, gaby. that statement is all kinds of wrong.
I’m
notsorry…WHAT. WHAT. WHAT WHAT WHAT.delete your reblog. delete your blog. delete everything.
Dear Shitnugget that posted the worst comment I have ever seen after a personal story like this:
Flirting is NOT consent
Touching someone casually is NOT consent
Getting a ride home with someone is NOT consent
Being friends with someone is NOT consent.An enthusiastic “YES” is the ONLY consent. That is it. End of the story. No arguing. No “but…” No “yeah well…” .
Nothing this person is doing in the photo is enthusiastically giving consent to her attacker (NO QUOTATIONS. he attacked her, he is an attacker).
what a terrible person that should never open their mouth again. if there is no consent there is no rape. and this is CONSENT, not touching, not flirting, nothing but CONSENT. it doesn’t matter what the actions of the victim were, it’s about the attacker’s actions only.
Reblogging for OP’s message and commentary nailing the piece of shit rape apologist who is victim blaming her.
To the asshole that isn’t any of the awesome people: You are an absolute fucking scumbag. Sort your fucking life out and stop victim-blaming.
To OP: You’re very brave to share this, thank you <3
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spdpがこの投稿を「スキ!」と言っています
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thegoddamazonがpalopoliからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
is really inspiring. And for...people criticizing this girl just because she
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kiwifruitoidがsototallynottylerからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
I would love to know what is wrong with people. It’s never a victim’s fault no matter what they were doing before the...
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sototallynottylerがcupkacieからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
o. m. f. g. i could go off on that effing trick.
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carey-knopeがcupkacieからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
Consent> BS victim-blaming
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cupkacieがthechargingskyからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
“If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.” It’s that fucking simple.
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therealjabberwockyがfuckrapecultureからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
male room mate who...good friend. There are lot...pictures...
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toomuchjunkがrebel-grrrlからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
Reblogging for the same reason as the person above.
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stopandpauseがpalopoliからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
I’m happy and proud that you don’t think it’s your fault because it is never the victim’s fault in something like this....
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mama-avioがlike-a-disney-love-songからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
i completely agree with Nana. how fucking dare you try to say it’s her fault. i just. no. that is ridiculously...
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mrrralphieがkingsandqueensofpromiseからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
I hate when people assume that men are the only ones who are capable of rape. Women are rapists too not just men.
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maiavalentineがgetundermyfrillsからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
Victim blaming/shaming is so fucking disgusting that I want to vomit when people do it. OP is incredibly brave, and...
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getundermyfrillsがkingsandqueensofpromiseからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
^ Everything she said. I have been almost raped twice, and I did not even KNOW these people, you can’t say someone...
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prettyontheinside-がareyoupassionateからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
palopoli: This photo was taken...night I was raped. March 20, 2010. The boy who has the...
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textincontextがim-a-bitchからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
To OP: Thankyou so much for sharing this, your strength makes me feel strong. To the PD who has reblogged this with his...
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a-rather-fortunate-lilly-maidがpalopoliからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
The-Scandyfactory It looks like this was simply a group of friends having a good time. This guy had no right to rape...
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a-rather-fortunate-lilly-maidがpalopoliからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
Again, here is the rape apologist. I already schooled him. I will reblog again later tonight for West Coasters.
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a-rather-fortunate-lilly-maidがpalopoliからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
Magic Darklord— It looks like this was simply a group of friends having a good time. This guy had no right to rape her,...
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tandiceがpalopoliからリブログして、コメントを追加しました:
Excuse me? No one asks for that. I was sexually harassed by my uncle last summer. I’m pretty sure I didn’t ask for that....
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